I appreciate the advice for when we are angry. I think a cold shower would really help him/us, I was also think that removing ourselves completely from this particular group is a good idea every time we are around them something happens sometimes with us but most the time there is something always going on with these guys they are toxic friends for both of us and that’s why I’ve kept my distance, limiting our alcohol intake or choosing not to discuss any of our troubles when we are under the influence of alcohol, and most importantly actively just working through our anger when it arises. Instead of reacting.