Dear Cali Chica:

I am glad to be back here with you!

After I sent you the email yesterday I realized I wasn’t clear enough and planned to clarify, so here is my effort to clarify: the origin of your tendency to see the worst in people, that is, to exaggerate their badness, is not in you projecting your mother into them.

When looking for origins of tendencies and behaviors we have to go back to the very beginning.

In the very beginning of young Cali Chica, her mother was good. She was as good as god, the epitome of goodness, all good.

Next god told you again and again and yet again how everyone else was bad.

A young child does not doubt god, or the epitome  of goodness.

This is it, this is the very beginning.

Fast forward, you discover that your mother is bad. Problem is that you still think and feel that everyone else is bad because she told you  so.

What do you think about my clarification?

anita