Hi Joe,

You come across as a kind and honest guy and as I reread my last post I realized I may have come across as harsh — I’m sorry. I realize now that you’re keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself and that the people you project your insecurities on are probably unaware of what you’re doing. I think a lot of people project onto others so it’s not all that unusual, and like I said before I think your awareness of the situation is so important. When you start to feel sorry for someone who is less attractive than the average person you can choose to step out of the narrative before it goes too far. Who knows, it’s possible that this less attractive person has a enviable reputation or skill, or a very loyal, wonderful group of friends, or can ace a calculus test without studying. Everyone puts a different value on various qualities and characteristics. Attractiveness isn’t a big deal for everyone.

I’m with anita…I’m glad you’re feeling better and I hope you keep posting.

B