Hi Faber & Lena,

before I get to your questions . I’d like to say im a professional in the psychology field & overall a huge psychology nerd. So with any relationship it’s important to look at the full picture before jumping to any conclusions. Our attachment styles, our upbringings , mindset/beliefs , mental health, trauma history etc .

Im also very spiritual , spirituality to me is just apart of life a truth. And so I look at those aspects as well. To get a full picture.

Given what I know about psychology when I first heard about Twin Flames I didn’t think it was a real thing. Then I met mine & had several unexplainable spiritual experiences. Researched it and found thousands of others with similar experiences. Still knowing it’s just a label to provide context & nothing is set in stone , given my experiences & my own spiritual abilities – it makes sense & is quite logical when broken down.

Boundaries are always important but rarely do we talk about spiritual boundaries. We live in a world that divides science & spirituality . It’s either one or the other. But as society and society advances , we see science is making “new” discoveries which are in alignment with spiritual truths that have been around for Ages.

Mentally/psychologically & physically we need to set proper boundaries with people. This allows us to connect & develop intimacy by letting others know what we can do.

But we are not only physical & mental. We are also spiritual . We are made of energy. Energy carries vibration. Life is about frequency. The things around us, the people we allow near us mostly carry a similar frequency. When our frequency changes our environment changes as well. This all allows us to connect. For example , empathy. The ability to feel what someone else feels. Why would we have this ability ? It lets us know we are communal beings.

This is a very choppy rough cut of my thoughts on this also typing on my phone & can’t see most of what I write lol.

so spiritual boundaries for example. Some people just have bad energy . Or energy that doesn’t resonate well with us. They may irritate us, make us weak, or even sick. Spiritual boundaries are needed in those cases.

With my Twin Flame, they don’t open up much. They have more than usual since connections with me, but they are still very closed off. And just at the beginning of their spiritual awakening & ascension. Me on the other hand, I’m HIGHLY empathic more than most, somewhat psychic , very communicative . I feel my Twin Flame on a very very deep level. And they are going through a lot and by not opening up & shoving it deeper & avoiding it, it’s just not good. Guess who feels it all? Me. I feel a ton of it. It started with me waking up in the middle of the night at specific times with panic attacks (sleep is never an issue for me), then I started having intense anxiety and panic attacks, my heart chakra was burning, I would think about them right when they were making a note to me, I became very in tune but also sick because of how deeply I felt everything they suppressed. And I wanted to help so bad (my codependency) that I didn’t know how to turn away even when they weren’t trying to help themselves . It was torture. I felt like I was watching someone set themselves on fire & not let me put it out.

So I had to set spiritual boundaries for my well being and health. So I could sleep. Stop getting bombarded with intuition about them. Limit how much I felt their pain. And trust they’d figure it out. Boundaries look different for different people. You just get messages about what to do. Mine was as simple as letting go & not checking on their social media or reaching out. Not because I didn’t want to be with them. But because the ball is in their court and they have to properly reach out.

If I could have it all my way. We’d be together talking it out on a beach somewhere & resolving it all. If I could have my way, we’d work it out romantically & be together.

But the ball is in their court & they’re still running.

I have been just keeping to myself & working on discipline & my personal goals. Making friends & getting my mental health together . And that’s the best thing I’ve done for myself since then. I also know that me tugging on them was pushing them away anyway.

Im not waiting because it’s painful. But I am distracting myself.