Dear Cali Chica:

I don’t see SD in this context as the “over there” of the Disneyworld Theme. It really is better: better climate, better life for the buck (3-bedrooms for same rent), better lifestyle for you (outdoors… no subways!), and most important for husband (and therefore for you): a “very organized” practice that is doctor friendly. This is exactly what his nyc job lacked terribly. More agreeable, cooperative, polite patient population makes a difference, just as more agreeable, cooperative and polite neighbors are preferable to uncooperative rude neighbors.

About enduring the distress of not knowing if you will  get the job you applied for and other uncertainties- there will always be extra distress for those of us whose brains were formed under distress. Like  I wrote to you a couple of years ago, it will take a few years before that distress calms down significantly. It is a long term project that has nothing much to do with anything but with that distance in between the ears. You can think to yourself: no matter where I live, distress will be in my life.

Don’t expect that once you make the move, or that if you get the job you applied for, then you will not be distressed anymore. This way your focus will not be the job you applied for, and the other uncertainties. Instead, your focus will be about this moment, here and now: how can I calm myself here and now?

anita