Hello Anita

I agree. I am good but not assertive coz I don’t want to hurt anyone. I am learning to say no and I spend a lot of time by myself as I don’t want to fall into everyone else’s plans for me. But I still don’t find people who make an effort. They are happy to sit and wait till I make the effort. The lazy ones. That’s what I don’t understand. And I meet them over and over again. It must be a lesson I am not learning.

I will try and find books on being assertive. I am assertive at work – some people even find me aggressive. My personal life is where I struggle. With relationships and friendships. I should learn to be more assertive. You are right as always.