Dear Anita,

A few key points I would like to re-highlight for myself:

1) any deep is too deep.  yes

2) her relationships with others will remain problematic for a long time. yes

AND it is not my job or duty to fix them, nor is it POSSIBLE.  attempting to do so is a lose-lose scenario

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I am open to hearing your input, would love to hear it, about the move.  I will let you begin (knowing what you know so far about the 2 options) and I will add and continue the convo 🙂