Dear Cali Chica:

I just read your earlier 10:23 post. I love it. It makes my exhaustion this morning worthwhile!

Comment, regarding your role helping her (spending your time, energy, money etc.), yes, of course she encouraged that, of course she did, taking advantage of you this way. Regarding helping her socially, that would be, seeing that she has friends and company, I don’t know about it. Maybe. There are so many factors to the relationship I can’t be exact about everything, every aspect of it. But at this time I am sure about  the main elements of it.

Which brings me to something I made a note of yesterday, remember I wrote to you a long time ago that  all that you did for your mother was in vain, and you  were moved by that statement I made, all in vain, remember?

Same thing with your sister, all  was in  vain, all that you ever did for her and all that you will ever do  for her will be in vain. At the end of the day, at the end of let’s say 40 years of trying to help her, she will tell you what she already told you: “well that’s on you, no one is asking for your help”.

All in vain. Don’t throw more of your and your husband time, energy, money and health down the drain.

anita