This is what I have always said that she should have been able to talk to me and also that I do not have X ray vision to know that she had these feelings because she didn’t not show me otherwise and I have said that due to this I would like the chance now I know to work on things I have suggested marriage counseling recently and she has said no I am in the process of having some counseling myself to go through things as you said which I hope will help because obviously my head is a mess