Dear CB:

You are welcome. I am sorry that you are heartbroken. I know the experience myself, that of finding it “just unbelievable” that a person behaves a certain way. In my experience, it is not that the person I trusted changed from good to bad, or from loving to .. cruel, but that I didn’t see the person accurately to begin with.

In other words, I don’t think that an adult’s behavior changes suddenly and drastically (except if the person is under the influence of powerful drugs, or if a person suffers brain injury or illness), but that we didn’t really know that person well.

anita