Dear gamer:

You wrote earlier, “I want clarity. I want a proper explanation”, so I am not surprised that you are most recently “curious as to why he does that” (that being him “following a bunch of random girls on a social media app”).You are a curious person, you want to learn what you don’t know, to understand better, and to have clarity instead of confusion.

To learn more about him, to understand him better, to have clarity about him, ask him questions and process his answers, as well as any information he gives you and information you gather yourself about him. Your brain is like a computer: feed it correct information and it will process all the information and come up with correct explanations.

“A very long time ago.. I asked him why he follows back random people and he said ‘they requested, I just accept and follow back like the nice guy I am’ and laughed”. He laughed because he knew that he followed the girls because they are girls, not because he is a nice guy. I don’t think he was trying to deceive you about his motive. I think that his laugh indicates that he was joking, having fun with his answer.

It’s easy to understand that a young heterosexual man follows random girls on social media because he thinks they look good and/or because he is flattered by their attention. This is quite understandable, to me, and not an indication that he is a bad person unless he is in an ongoing committed relationship (which was not the case at the very beginning when you met him, and it is not the case now).

anita