Hello Search

I’ve just joined and hope I can help you.

You know how they say that, if you chase a guy, he loses interest in you? Well, I think the same applies to friends and that you are ‘chasing’ your ‘friends’. Try not contacting them and, if they never close the gap and contact you, they were never really your friends and you should let them go and look elsewhere for real connection with other people. Don’t phone them on their birthdays, maybe send a card but, if they have not got in touch with you by the time their next birthday rolls round, don’t send another. Don’t contact them again, move on and find people who are more like you and who will be more than happy to be your friend, and in a reciprocal fashion.

You say ‘most’ of your friends treat you this way, which implies you have other friends who do not. Put your energy into them and forget the others. See those friends away from the ‘circle’ and set about making new friends, too. You are not a good fit with the ones who treat you so badly. Are they old school friends? Not all early friendships are meant to last, do not hang out with people who make you feel bad.

I know how hard it is to be in your situation, but clinging to people who don’t value you just damages your self-esteem. It is NOT that you have no value, just that you are trying to stay friends with the wrong people. The right people are out there, go find them. 🙂

I really hope this helps you.

Jan