Dear Amy:

If I understand correctly, your long term relationship ended, and you moved to be closer to your parents, now living with a roommate and very busy in a job that you like, even though it’s a very stressful job. When you wrote, “I know these are decisions I have to make myself”, you are referring to one decision: whether to resume that long term relationship (is there another decision that you are considering making?)

You also wrote: “My ex.. has just given up on me and told me it’s over for good… I’m not sure I just want to give up  on the relationship”-

– if he told you that “it’s over for good”, is it not over for good? If so, the decision was already made, hasn’t it?

anita