Hi Anita

You say:

“The OP pursued (texting her) the student so frequently, that he/she interrupted her studies, and she asked him/her to stop texting her so that she can study!”

That is not what Sofat said; I think you have made too many assumptions. It’s also possible – perhaps Sofat will clarify? – that this was never a sexual relationship, he only ever mentions ‘chatting’ and perhaps that’s all there has ever been to it. It is possible that this ‘relationship’ has mostly happened in Sofat’s head. Also, he said he let her go but that she came back to him a couple of months later, admitting she had left him to look for someone ‘better’. She is not the innocent you make her out to be and, besides, the guy came here for help, not to be judged. Yes, we’ve established that he should not have pursued a relationship with this girl but, three years on, let’s look at the situation now. She is manipulating him and causing him pain and that is the problem that needs to be addressed without judgement, given that Sofat has trusted us with the details of his story and reached out for help.

Jan