Dear Sofat

I’m so pleased that you seem to be in a much better place now, emotionally, and are able to question this girl’s motives and keep her at arm’s length. Now, rather than trying to figure out why she’s doing what she’s doing, next time she calls make it clear that you don’t want to hear from her again, wish her well, and stop taking her calls if she won’t stop calling. Move on, my friend, and find someone you can build a real relationship with.

all the best

Jan