Hi anita I understand and apreciate your reply (all your replies). your right about alot I think i want to just move forward from this. I realize I said maybe to much about his privacy and that tmi is not intentional I guess  its my ocd. The topic as you say may sound sexual in nature but the entire incident wasnt sexual at all nor my thoughts or even his  comment. I mightve made you think that but its not.  And I do understand all u said about the focuses in ocd as it relates to sexuality and self image. Im 25 mine started in my teens it was appearance self image insecurity self consciousness all that. Dont want to get further into it. Thanks for all your helps  and advice. Thank U KC