Hi Anita,

You’re right I think. I need to take agency for my own life and make better decisions for myself. Agreed.

The reason for this current post is however, to thank you. I think the particular problem that I came with to this thread is solved.

So, yesterday, L called me multiple times, again after a month or so I think. And Anita, for the first time I felt nothing, absolutely nothing. Not nostalgia, not love, not even hatred. It was just another call blinking on my phone that I didn’t feel like answering. That’s it. Later tho when I saw my phone and saw 8 missed calls from him,  I was borderline repulsed by the thought that for 5 years I took so much disrespect from this person. I had texted on this site less than a month ago, literally stuck because I just couldn’t let go and now I am free of this. So many things that you’ve said, Peter said, I think they actually made a difference.
And honestly I think my perspective on what I want in a man is slowly changing, in my head at least. When I am thinking of what i put up with and the kind of men i was attracted to, I feel like its not something that I want hereon.
There’s definitely a lot of self-work to be done but gosh, I’m at least free of my past unhealthy relation.

Thank You So much Anita. You’ve no idea how much of a help you’ve been. Just to have someone listen to even your most bizarre thoughts and bother to give a thoughtful opinion on them, is commendable. And to think that you’re doing that for absolute strangers, is very giving of you. I wish you all the happiness for all the positivity you’re spreading here. For helping me identify some of my childhood hurt and helping me break the abusive cycle that i was stuck into, I will forever be grateful. Thanks Much.

Love,

Jenny.