@Danny

Reading your post made me blub like a baby!😭

Please don’t apologise in your reply, not your fault I’m hormonal too!! I feel a mixture of happiness, enlightenment, sadness and then finding your journey remarkable. A 🎢  of emotions!

Just a tidbit about me, for 4 years I poured my soul into trying to make an unfulfilling relationship work, I prayed my BF would eventually have the self awareness and emotional awakening you’ve had. By the time he did, it was all ruined and at a point of no return. I clung and destroyed my own self esteem by staying far too long. I wish I had acted with the strength and character of ‘B’ , the very first time we split up.

You’re incredibly lucky, lucky LUCKY that ‘B’ had the foreknowledge, presence of mind and self worth to stop your relationship when she did. It was the perfect timing.

Sticking together would have led to a toxic mess like that experienced by me and @Shelbyville. She entered your life for enough time to pull you out from drowning which shows how special she is and her positive influence clearly caused major change in you. As strange as it is to say she also left at the right time too, not because she didn’t love you evidently she loves you a lot. She knew better, that the potential she saw would only come through evolving, you needed to do the work on your own to realise that potential.That’s a Queen!

And boy did you! You became self aware through reflection and regret. You grew up. You realised what an amazing, supportive, generous, kind woman you always had. You didn’t allow your past conditioning and childhood to be an excuse for your adult behaviour. You took full responsibility and had the courage like a mature adult would to take the necessary actions to apologise in person and undo any limiting thought patterns and fight for a new chapter you both deserved. You committed with intent.

Her giving you another chance shows she has always felt strongly about you but wasn’t foolish to stay and be treated undeservingly or with the contempt you earlier described.

I’m so happy you have proved to us, her but above all YOURSELF that you really do love her and deserve her love too. I’m so happy you controlled your urges and are treating this classy lady the way she needs to be treated. I’m so happy she is still very much like how you initially described her and I think it is beautiful how much effort she puts into understanding your needs and emotions. You did it Danny 👏

Well done Danny! That is no easy feat, unlike @Shelbyville (I admire her complete non judgement) I’m keeping it real, when you first posted on this thread I thought what an absolute tosser to do that to a woman who cared so much and built him up when he was at his weakest.

Everyone make mistakes though and you have rectified it in the correct manner which shows who you really are as a person. You could have easily used your past as an excuse and just carried on. So I’m sorry for that moment of judgement.

Today you realised by being vulnerable with your emotions and letting her compassion and understanding all in that it’s okay to be cared, taught, supported and loved. It doesn’t make you less of a man it makes you a greater man. Be the King your Queen chose!!

Tell this woman you LOVE HER and put a ring on it. I would want to know ASAP how much I mean and I’m valued by the guy who I would do anything for. You don’t need more time, you already feel and see the positivity she adds to your life! I’d bet my roof on it she will say YES! I’m so elated for you!

Do let us know how it all progresses. I hope one day I meet a man like you and Tim. Self aware and not afraid to confront his mistakes and grow to be better. Most men never do the work on themselves let alone push through their fears.

@Shelbyville, @Kkasxo and I as women were mostly telling you to move on and just focus on yourself and leave that wonderful woman alone but you persevered and backed it up with good actions. She could have easily said no but you fought for her and showed her you’ve clearly changed. It looks like that connection was real and special all along!! I’m proud you didn’t just go back to stringing her along and are taking the actions to show how serious you are.

@Shelbyville I’m guessing you must be busy with work as I haven’t heard back. I hope you got some support by putting an appeal forward and work isn’t causing you tears!

@Tim thanks big bro ❤ your words always mean so much to me!

I agree being in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean happiness. I was in one for 4 years supposedly happy but not. I’m learning to be ok by myself like truly happy alone. I’ve learned so much about love, my own behaviour, my needs and how much strength I actually have when I put my mind to it.

I’ll try and enjoy the lull or quiet because I’m sure before I know it my life will bring me to where I need to be. If I just work on me when I get there I’ll be the best me.

Have you considered private
3D scans? It is beautiful for a first time pregnancy experience as a couple. It will allow you to have a video of plum too!

I hope it continues to go smoothly for you both!! Before long you’ll be holding him or her do you know the sex yet?