Dear TeaK,

Sorry for not replying earlier as there’s no notification, and although I wondered, instead of checking directly, I supposed that maybe there’s no answer from you, too 😔

So far, I think I’m rather clear with what I don’t want: being ghosted and taken advantage of.

Another conflict is, I don’t want to be contacted when he’s with someone else, but the longer he’s absent in my life, the less he means for me. And I tried to see if I’d avoid interacting with my married male colleague, the result seemed to be no, probably because I’m aware that nothing can develop between.

I understand your points, just this popped up for a second: can there be a friendship which I keep in touch with somebody without leading to a formal romantic relationship? I know it’s unlikely with that man because of the history.

Can you please give me an example of “start valuing yourself”?

Finally, I’d like to share that, these days I’ve been so over the “connection” or the idea of reconciliation (even though I’m sure that I will neither initiate nor respond to him further), it still upset me a little when reading something suggesting a third party.