Dear Gigi:

You are welcome. You deserve his apology and more than an apology. You are justified in wanting him to suffer a consequence for doing you wrong. But you are not justified in doing something that will harm/ create suffering for his children- so better think it through and figure out a way to go about you seeking justice in the case of this man.

In the case of your mother doing you a lot of wrong, did she apologize and did she try to make amends to you, such as paying for you to attend psychotherapy, so that you can heal some from the emotional harm she caused you?

(I will be away from the computer for a while).

anita