Wow @Jay2023 Two months in and she was doing that and you let it drag for 18 months? That’s at least a year too long, lessons learned. Don’t shame yourself. Just build your self esteem so no one ever takes advantage. You know givers often have to create boundaries or set limits as the takers don’t have any. Makes me so sad that you’re enduring pain right now. But sometimes we have to learn the hard way.

This will make you stronger and will lead to a healthier relationship as you’ll learn to also communicate your needs. Thats really important. Making sure you don’t appease others to make things pretend happy. It is better to communicate and face issues so you can avoid prolonging problems like above.

Have you ever had therapy before? I hope tomorrow you gain a new perspective and let me know how it goes. Rooting for you Jay!