TeaK,

Initially, it was difficult but since I was still young, I adjusted quickly. My parents wanted me to be with them. They were happy to have me back but yes my sister had got used to being the centre of attraction and she did not take me coming back well. Her complaints to me and my parents began then on.

I don’t know if something in me changed then or later. But I was never welcomed by her in the family. I used to copy her and so we often fought, my parents would have to get involved. Later on, I started getting tired of fights every day and started staying away. She did not like even that. She wanted people to revolve around her and talk to her and, about her.

But as Anita says, I will stay away from her as much as possible for my own sanity. Plus, whether he was good for me or not, I know he did love me and I know our situation wasn’t normal ever but he did try hard to work it out whenever I gave up. Yes, he had insecurities even then but we never did even have a chance to live how normal couples do, with love and without worries of what our families would do if they knew we are still dating. He did masturbate even then but it wasn’t excessive, and so there was no addiction here. He used to drink with friends on weekends like most men and his only addiction was smoking- which was quite a lot- a pack a day. There was a balance between work and the relationship. I didn’t text him a lot, neither did I expect anything from him in return. We met whenever possible and when we were in long-distance, we made plans to meet. We used to video call every night though. When my sister started going to his place where other friends lived as well and started telling them how he broke her trust as a friend by dating her younger sister, all friends started coming to him with advice. Men who often went to prostitutes, were drunk all day, had bad relationships, were unemployed started coming to tell him that he was wrong in loving me. He told me that it created a huge impact on his mind and he still feels embarrassed about it. Says that was when he first regretted meeting me.  I don’t know how long we would have lasted if my sister didn’t interfere but I would have still dealt with it better than the mess she created with me, him, my family, and his family. I don’t think I can ever forgive her for that even if tomorrow someone else comes to my life, I know I can’t forgive her.

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