Her father is doing well now and has been discharged as well.
As soon as my father returned home today after the ceremony, he was like now I am free from the stress of the elder daughter’s future and then looked at me and told me I have found a great family for you- the boy is in allied services, his father is a professor and mother a teacher. You will be so happy. It scared the shit out of me. And on top of that, he said your sister rejected so many good guys, the best proposals were rejected by her, now she was forced to settle with an average family. It is good but I wished she had chosen when she had the choice and got a better family and a better husband. Now she is so old that there are no good eligible guys left. So, I won’t let you reject guys right left and center like her. Learn to adjust and compromise.
I feel so scared and hurt. I so wish I fell in love with someone who took responsibility for his decisions, I could have taken his name confidently knowing that my parents need not look for people who will be bought through these costly gifts for me. I wish I fell in love with someone who could take a leap of faith and jump into these marriage discussions rather than just wanting to jump in bed with me.
I know this feeling will pass soon but it hurts a lot currently. There is no standing up for yourself in such cases, either you make the people who took care of you all your life sad and disappointed or you make them happy. Either way I won’t be happy.
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