As my nuptials are fast approaching, we had initially kept it under wraps but now inevitably news has started to spread beyond my inner circle and extended family. Lo and behold the ex and my ex mate of mine have reached out. We resolved things and I made peace however I couldn’t find the strength or didn’t want anything beyond that.

‘B’ and I got into our first real argument yesterday. I don’t know what’s pissed me off more the fact I took it out on ‘B’  or the fact even when moving forward I feel like I haven’t moved forward.

Basically my ex mate wants to make amends and retrieve our relationship but with that will come the ex gf too! I do miss him, he was my best friend from childhood but I don’t want to be around her. I just don’t trust her after she cheated. She doesn’t have the beautiful character of ‘B’ so i fear the risk of meddling with her or barbed remarks.

‘B’ was eager for me to make amends and let bygones be bygones. She is so secure and I don’t know it just irked me that she’d suggest that, most so ask for the opposite, stay away from your ex!

She doesn’t know how much they hurt me. I know ‘B’ has a bigger heart than most, I see she doesn’t allow room for negativity. Anyway this didn’t stop me in the moment stupidly accusing her of trying to control who is part of my circle, which she quite rightly took offense to.

I’ve never seen her so mad or exasperated, I’m trying not to let insecurities control me and remind myself she loves me, I know we are not going to break up or anything but what if this affects us, what do I do? She isn’t immature so has communicated her feelings, she decided to not stay over after the argument and said she needed time to herself and this morning was very brief in her text “GM, have a good day too” and I don’t know whether to let it be or do something? I’m upset my past is still hurting me!

Any help will be greatly appreciated @Sammy1 or even @Jay2023 if you can. Not the greatest at resolving confrontation I tend to get stubborn myself.