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Sammy
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Don’t do it Danny, don’t get a third party involved by contacting her friends or family. This is between you and her. You’ll lose her trust. Let her deal with her emotions and heal however SHE feels fit, just be patient.

I know you and @Jay2023 are men so think differently but us women (@Rhaenys) have both confirmed where some of her hurt is arising from. She has let you know what she needs in a mature way and hasn’t ignored you at any point. She just needs space although hard it’s a fair request given the context of this situations. If she had not rang you as usual or failed to reply to your text then we would all be telling you that this is silent treatment being used to gaslight.

So TRUST in your bond like @Jay2023 said. This is mature behaviour to communicate how you feel and to respect one another when asked.
You’ve hit the panic button for some reason, yeah you made a few rookie mistakes but you shouldn’t be feeling this insecure. Come on Danny, you’ve come so far to let old insecurities eat away at you again. You’re a better person than yesterday and you just need to continue in that vain. We all mess up, I have,  I’m sure @Jay2023 and @Rhaenys have too and could tell you their own anecdotes. The test of character comes in how we make amends. I know you understand where you went wrong and are not egotistical so will do all you can.

I will be realistic with you when you meet you will be able to determine whether this was simply a learning opportunity or if it was an event that warrants putting the brakes on the relationship. I doubt it will be the latter because I feel it in my body you two may bicker, may be opposites in some ways but you work on your love for each other that’s the secret recipe for a happy successful union.

So respect that time she has set aside stop questioning what she is doing or thinking, only she knows. We can only surmise based on our own experiences. Just as @Jay2023 said it is good blessing and time to think about if you’re on the same page, if not what you can do to compromise, take this time to introspect.

Learning to sit back and wait for communication without incessantly worrying is vital for healthy relationships too.


@Jay2023
and @Rhaenys suggested over the weekend you text her and although she has asked to not be contacted I think one text to just remind her you do care is not disrespectful at all it’s thoughtful, but after that if you receive no response just sit tight and wait. Keep it brief, something positive and remind her you’re thinking of her and you care. Let her know you are there whenever she is ready don’t force her hand in anyway.

I’m rooting for you both Danny. I’m so sorry I can’t support you over the weekend. I’ll try on Sunday to make time to check but you stay strong and remember the love you have for one another is more than this blip 💙