Dear noname:

“So you’re saying a possible solution is to just be sad?.. My response to sadness 90% of the time is couple with negatives beliefs about why I deserve to suffer”- to radically accept something means to accept it without making a judgment about it. To accept your sadness without judging that you deserve it,  is to radically accept your sadness.

You feel sad because you are lonely, because you need emotional/ social support and you don’t have it. Try to keep it at that, without judging yourself as unworthy of support. When you find it difficult to do, think of/ imagine the young child that you were, see him in your mind’s eye. Hopefully, seeing his youthful face, hurt and so very sad, will lead you to accept that young child’s/your sadness without judgment.

anita