Dear Anita,

Thank you for opening my mind again. I remember, I had a male friend whom I never met before in person. When my boyfriend and I first started talking and getting to know each other as friends, I told him how much I wanted to go to another country as a visit, and I guess I was naïve at the time, so I shared that if I went there, I would meet up with one of my male friends that I talked over the years through online. The boyfriend at the time, I guess, he knew he wasn’t my boyfriend yet, so he couldn’t have a say in all this. but until very recently, when we went on the trip, he brought up about “that male friend” again, and wanted to see his photo, so I showed it to him. He got really upset and told me to delete him off my list because he claimed I’ve never met that male friend in person, why did it even consider as friendship?” I feel like his ex did it to him, and since, I only listened to one side story, now think about it, I’m not too sure whether it was him being toxic or she was.

I told him, I’ve been friends with many, and many over the years through online, and I believe with my judgement, that these people are not harmful in any ways.

I also recently released myself from a toxic friendship for more than a year now, and I would dislike myself to end up with another one, who is in a crazier situation.

• This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by Umm.