Dear Felix,

you’re very welcome.

After this explanation regarding the construction business, do u think the solution is still the same? Is it still related to low self esteem?

Yes, you were bragging or exaggerating to have people like you and think highly of you, and that’s because you lack self-esteem. Once you improve your self-esteem, you can still post about your father’s construction business (even if it’s not your father’s only, but he has a partner). So you can post about it, maybe with the intention to advertise it, or to inform people about some achievement (e.g. new building completed), or to inform people about a new development.

It’s not a sin to share about your father’s company for advertising purposes (something like: I am proud to present to you this new development, and btw if you know someone who’s interested in buying an apartment in this complex, here’s the info…) A little self-praise and healthy self-esteem is totally okay. But if your posts are driven by an unmet need – by a craving to be praised, and if without the praise of other people you feel worthless – that’s when it’s not healthy.

As for the aquarium business, I’ve already told you I think it’s cool and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. So if you feel like it, you can advertise that business too. If someone looks down on it, it’s their problem. There will always be people who don’t like the same things that you like – you can’t please everybody. That’s something you need to take into consideration – you can never please everybody. Even the greatest videos on youtube get dislikes. The less you seek approval and praise from others, the better and freer you’ll feel…

As for the girl you like, there are too many uncertainties and so many things that can change within 4 years. I think you have a good attitude: you’re not waiting for her or expecting that she chooses you. You’re open to finding a good, loving relationship, in which you’ll be happy. You told her something very wise: “If indeed we’re meant to be with each other then we will be together…. then she said okay…”

I think it’s a good attitude. It’s okay if she sometimes pops up in your mind, but you’re not obsessing about her or hoping for something she never promised. So it seems to me you have a good attitude – just keep at it!

= Yeah i’ve decrease my time on social media… like i decrease it a lot… and i also dont want to post and more insta stories unless i really have to, because with this personality of mine i will only give myself a headache.

Good you’ve reduced it… When you post, try to ask yourself “what’s my intention?” If it’s “to get praise because I feel bad without it”, then don’t post it. But as I said, if you want to post from a place of feeling good and positive about yourself, or you want to advertise your company, or want to share some achievement, either your personal or your company’s achievement – you can post about it, there’s no harm in it. It can be fun and even useful in terms of business.