because healing requires facing the old wounds, and that might be painful. It also requires admitting that you have needs, which is also painful. And lastly, even if you heal, it’s not a guarantee that you won’t be hurt and rejected again, which might cause you new pain. All those are reasons to stay in the status quo – basically to avoid pain. You think it’s easier.

(begging the question) yes, but why some people do this healing, and i choose not to do this healing ? you avoid the question, why do i choose the easy way, and some people don’t ?

There’s a famous quote by Anais Nin: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

appeal to authority

This is usually when the decision to change happens: when the pain of staying in the status quo, stagnating, fearing, suffering, not living from our true self… becomes larger than the pain we might experience when we choose to come out from our protective shell and give ourselves a chance

black and white

It’s like a patient refusing surgery because he’s afraid of the treatment and prefers to live with a broken limb

its really not the same

Or decides it’s best to end his life

it is, all his future and present pain will go away

because broken limb causes too much pain. Is it really smart?

personal incredulity

and I am glad that you actually agree with my notion that you came up with the entire philosophy and belief system

(false cause) i don’t agree, its a possibility, not a fact

though i still like how sure you are about everything you say, like its a fact, even though you are talking about me, a person that you have no clue who he is, only from what i said here, you think all my problems come down to emotion, well i guess thats your freewill