Dear Natie:

You are welcome. “would you say that I was controlling..?”- I would say you were not controlling of him. You were trying to control your life– which is fair, it’s what you are supposed to do.

“was I also wrong in wanting to land a job/ career in an industry I like..?”- no, you were not wrong: it is your life, your career- it is right (not wrong) that you decide what career to choose in your life.

Addressing the core-belief will be difficult. As you do that, you will sometimes feel uncomfortable and want to stop. When that happens, let me know. You are always welcome to stop: there is no pressure from me that you continue when you don’t want to. It  is the same principle as the above: it’s your life, you decide!

Also, you may be uncomfortable sharing personal things on a public forum, maybe afraid someone who knows you or your family will be reading and figuring out it’s you, not wanting to embarrass your family by sharing private matters. So, remember to not share any real names (of people or places), and you don’t have to share details that are not relevant, like the very exact ages of people, the titles of their jobs, their looks, etc. Remain vague in regard to some things.

So, let’s start, what happened when you brought a bad grade home: what did you feel when you first got the bad grade, what happened next.. ?

anita