Dear Karma,

Whenever i asked him to take me to his place, he would make excuses. Even when we were together hanging around, he wanted to drop me to my pg at earliest.. i was always waiting for him. Sometimes he would tell me that he is coming to meet me and i used to wait but most of the times he didn’t show.

He treated you very poorly, letting you wait, trying to spend as little time as possible with you, making excuses… Basically he was rejecting you much of the time, while you were pleading to get more attention. Sometimes you would get angry, which would lead to fights, right?

The dynamic between the two of you is quite frequent in relationships: an anxiously attached person (you) is seeking love and attention from an avoidantly attached person (him), never getting enough. She is always pushing and asking for more, while he is always pushing her away and trying to distance himself from her.

You said you used to bunk college just to be with him. That could be a sign of anxious attachment – putting him as a priority in your life, before everything else, including your studies. Getting attached so much to him that he becomes your source of everything, and without him you feel lost. Can you relate to that?