Anita,

She is strict in the sense that the kids make their own breakfast,  not allowed to get up or exit their rooms in the morning until a certain time.  Bedtime 8:30 even on weekends and holidays, Only allowed 30 minutes of electronics a day, sit straight up at the table during meals, don’t slouch. Do everything themselves…I can’t remember more.  She threw? tossed a plate across the kitchen counter when Ella went to give the plate to her at the sink.  Ella is a challenging child and the 2 of them butt heads.  My parents found her intense when they met her once at Aiden’s baseball tournament.  They stated she seemed very insecure but covered it up by acting and saying things about women should be independent.  My dad told me he thinks there is not something right with her but he wasn’t sure what it was.

After I had Ella and she was 3 months old, I got up in the middle of the night.  My ex came in the room and I said something rude and he got beside me and raised his fist as to hit me.  After that it became “I hope you die, go kill yourself, go jump off a cliff, shup the F*** up, your a bitch, etc.”  Crowding my space when I walked by, rushing up to me (Aiden was 3 months old one of the times and I was holding him. )  Pointing his finger and jabbing it at my chest.  Extremely jealousy, going through my phone, going through my things, asking me who I was meeting up with when I got dressed up, accusing me of going to met someone when I walked the dogs.. Putting his hands on my once by hitting me extremely hard on the top of my legs/butt during an argument when I was bent over throwing away trash.

He knew I didn’t like sex with him because I would make excuses a lot.  It was more coersive sex versus sexual abuse definitely. He would yell I know you don’t like it why not, who are you sleeping with, I can’t get ha** because you are not interested.  You won’t kiss me or touch me why not?  He would sit on the side of the bed and sometimes I would get up and he would follow me around saying things about sex.

Lindsey