Dear Peace,

I am fine, thank you. I do have some chronic knee problems, but it’s still manageable.

I saw small changes on behalf of my sister about my Guy .she wanted to know his family, and it appeared to me a positive sign …i hope things get better without me going against them and being called a rebel.

Good to hear that your sister might be more open to accepting your boyfriend…

i hate to admit it but i always craved that love and attention from my family from Childhood ..i wanted to be a Good Sister and good Daughter so that i could be “Seen” , “heard” and paid attention to .i was very hungry for Love and being accepted .so i hope i could make my point why it effects me …

Although I have matured enough, to realize by my own experiences that such superficial thing doesn’t matter, but still. yes, there is a part of me who wants to be a good Sister/ Daughter.

It’s good you are aware of it. I understand you don’t want to disappoint your mother and siblings, and want to be loved and appreciated. But I believe you wouldn’t want to pay the price of sacrificing yourself for their “love”. And if they can’t accept you for who you are, then their love isn’t true love either, but is burdened by expectations. Then they don’t see the real you but expect you to meet their image of who you should be.

The solution is to love and accept yourself completely, to love your true self. Your true self includes your needs and desires, your goals and dreams, as well as your preferences for a life partner. So love yourself and your preferences, and it will be easier to deal with your family’s “disappointment”. If they truly love you and appreciate you, they will accept your choice of partner, and be happy for you.