Dear Tineoidea,
she was pretty unfair when it comes to her expectations while knowing my hardships (and not doing much if anything about those even though she could have easily) and consuming most of my free time.
That’s interesting, perhaps she was like him in some aspects, and that’s why they “clicked”. It still may be true what I suggested earlier that she had some resentments against you (“being dissatisfied no matter how hard you tried or how much you gave”), but didn’t share them openly with you. But when he came along, he confirmed her view of you, and that’s when things started going down..
One thing I find curious is that on one hand, she didn’t want to help you with your hardships (“not doing much if anything about those even though she could have easily“), but you also said this:
W herself wanted to help me with zeal (and I have never asked for it either) because she wanted me close, in her life.
So did she want you help you zealously or not? Have you asked for her help or not?
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 