Dear Peace,

I haven’t seen your message from October 31, thanking me and anita for the progress you’ve made – you are very welcome!

i dint understand alot of things and i used to feel guilty mostly ., i still do feel guilty but now i m able differentiate about healthy guilt feeling ( which makes me a human ,if i m unfair about a thing i guess) and unhealthy one .. and much more ..

You have indeed made an incredible progress and I am so happy for you!!

Regarding your other sister’s visit, you say:

actually i dint tell her about my bf yet as far as i know my other sister ( may be ) hasnt told her yet ..

i still dint think about telling her as she is kind of very cultural kind a person and i m not sure ,how would she react ..

at this stage of my life ..i want no drama in my life and no emotional manipulation from anyone..i want to have a peace of mind and dont want tp be mentally disturb …bcz i have alot of things to focus on my study, job and my mental health ..

The thing is that even if you haven’t told your sister about your wedding plans, the drama is still happening in your own mind. You fear your sister’s reaction, you don’t want her (or other family members) to condemn you, and the fear of their rejection is so strong that you started questioning your decision to marry the man you love (why is it so that sometimes we know that we took the right decision but suddenly we start to doubt ourselves and our Decisions ??)

To answer your question: you started doubting your decision because you fear your family’s rejection. It’s the inner child that fears to be rejected, unloved and left alone… like you were once, when you suffered alone, in the corner, no one noticing that something’s bothering you…. It’s the same little girl afraid that this would happen again…

You need to metaphorically take her in your arms and tell her she is not alone, that you’ll be there for her always. You need to tell her that you love her and will always protect her and care for her. You can give yourself a big hug, to embrace that little girl.

And also, you’re not alone now, you have a man who loves you and cares about you… so tell the little girl she has nothing to worry about, that she will be safe and loved, even if her family rejects her for their stupid and short-sighted reasons.

Do you think you can do that? Do you think you can talk to your inner child like that?