Dear sossi:

“Both my mother and sister are not reaching out, they both want me to do it all… Does it mean I have to chase after them..?“- NO!

“they throw poison darts at me“- Keep yourself in a safe distance from them, so that their poison darts can’t reach you!

“Or is it literally the fact that I am the youngest child and expected to fall in line?”- see how as adults, we still feel like children when it comes to our families-of-origin, how stuck we tend to be, in our early roles of childhood?

“My parents came and rang my door to ‘demand’ a reply from me. My mother looked sulky and handed me something of mine that had been at their house, an item of clothing. This is a routine she does when she is annoyed. of clearing things out of her house that belong to me…I always find it an offensive thing to do“- yes, it is offensive, and it is a shame that a mother intentionally (with the obedient support of her husband/ your father) offends her own daughter!

“Having family problems is really at the core of who you are as a person… I’m contemplating just simply not being around them anymore“- good idea, sossi: it’s the way to keep yourself safe from being hit by the poison darts you mentioned in the beginning of your post!

anita