Dear beginner25/ Reader:

It’s been close to 4 years since we talked and there is little chance you are reading this, but nonetheless, just in case: how are you?

I read a bit from our communication. June 1, 2018, you wrote: “I…  let everyone see just the parts of me that I want them to…. with my ex… I let him see it all and he left” –

I wrote to you on the same day: “What I learned is that people don’t see people as they are. People do a lot of inaccurate projections, seeing through their experience, sort of inserting the people in their early life into the new people in their (current) lives… I don’t think you can control what other people see because what they see in you is basically… other people in their early lives… I read about your ex-boyfriend, of course, and it is clear to me that his impulses, his choices all come from his past, his past experiences and nothing really to do with who you are”.

“Often people are so focused on trying to hide themselves, that they don’t even have ‘eyes’ to see the person they are trying to hide from”.

I want to develop these thoughts a bit further today: awakening to the present means to no longer project our misinterpretation of our past into the present. To see the people in our present life as they are, we have to correct our misinterpretations of the powerful people in our early lives, and parents are the most powerful of all. For as long as we see our parents not as they were or are, we keep seeing other people… not as they are.

Awakening to the truth of the present means to understand that our thoughts all along were interpretations of reality, not necessarily reality. Whatever was misinterpreted needs to be corrected. Otherwise, we live our lives blind to who we really are and who other people really are. Be open-minded to re-interpretation, consider or reconsider new possibilities.

When you perceive that another person disrespects you because of who you are- remind yourself that he/she likely misinterprets you. There is so much figurative blindness in this world. Awakening and opening our eyes to reality, that is, to the correct interpretation of reality, is a refreshing and engaging process that makes a huge difference!

anita