@HoneyBlossom

I’m very sorry for the difficulties that you experienced in childhood and with partners as an adult.

It seems like you blame yourself a lot for relationships with partners that treat you badly.

I disagree! If you grew up with a healthy family it would not have set in motion the events that happened with you. Your family would have encouraged you to date people that treat you well and been angry at anyone who tried to hurt you.

It has taken almost a decade of trauma therapy for me to learn to set boundaries and avoid people with unhealthy behaviours.

It is not at all an easy thing to do when you were taught from a young age that abuse is acceptable within a household.

Additionally, the partners who treat you badly are responsible for their own poor behaviour. Not you!

You are not stupid, you have been through a lot of trauma. That takes a toll. It’s not your fault.