Anita-

Good morning and Happy Monday. I hope you enjoyed your weekend- Mine went by entirely too fast.

The counseling appointment is tomorrow- the counselor had to reschedule.  I think your advice was spot on.  I lost a bit of the focus on the children and I was thinking that sharing examples of his mistreatment towards myself as a parent could be acknowledged in counseling with the counselor taking my side.

I do not believe that should be part of the discussion early on.  It should be focused on the children.  There may be things that will be addressed regarding the 3 of us getting along and negative things that they have done but not the main focus.  I think it will be very beneficial for everyone involved.

My relationship with Jason is going very well.  We are going on 5 months soon and I am very happy.  I have a classic example of my relationship anxiety and I need to address with him but need some guidance.

On Saturday we were eating dinner and he stated with his prior girlfriend when she brought up moving forward- being introduced to his children, etc.  He explained to her  that he liked where things were at and did not want to take the next steps. They had been together about 6 months. She does not have children and acknowledged with him that she lived 45 minutes away and was planning on moving this year out of state.

My worry is that what if that happens with me? I think this should be brought up prior to me having to ask. Now- I may feel at that time that I am happy with the way things are and do not want to move forward.  However- you cannot sustain an ongoing relationship in my opinion with things staying stagnant and not moving forward at some point.

I think this is a difficult topic for me because he is meeting the check marks for someone  I would consider moving forward in a more serious manner when that time presents itself.  I feel strongly that this subject should be addressed whenever either one of us comes to the decision they do not want to get more serious prior to the other party having to ask with the expectations that things will be moving forward.

Lindsey