Dear Olivia:

To put it in other words: I think that you have this belief (it is a common belief among teenage girls) that you are unacceptable. You also believe that to be a lesbian is unacceptable. Your brain connected these two things this way: I am unacceptable because I am a lesbian.

I think that if you look at the real reason for why you believe that you are unacceptable, your brain will let go of the substitute reason (that you are a lesbian, or bi).

anita