Dear Addy:

“I’m mostly very critical of myself and sometimes I also put that pressure to being better on my girlfriend… tell others what to do…  sometimes I force them to be better“- inside you there is a figurative child and a figurative parent. The parent voice in you is strong (it’s “this critical negative voice” that you mentioned in your previous thread). It says to the child: you are not ___ enough, you need to get better at it, get better at it, NOW! And the child gets anxious and feels overwhelmed by being rushed this way, so he whines but he doesn’t say anything (no words) because he is used to not being heard.

Would you say that there is such a dynamic of voices within you? And if there is, would you like to give the child within you words so that he can clearly express himself?

anita