Dear Addy:

I am glad to read that you stand up for yourself 99% of the time outside the context of your family.

“Recently we did got into conflict but I was like kept asking what I did wrong and I said you’re being angry for no reason so he just cut the call“- what if you cut the call with him?

“if I did tell him like you said “otherwise don’t look at me at all”, he’d definitely take this as like disrespectful bomb“- your father has been misusing his authority position as father to disrespect you, and he feels comfortable doing so because there are no real negative consequences for him when he disrespects you.

“I may have to find softer way for conflict resolution“- I think that for your father, soft Addy = submissive Addy.

In your first thread, on Sept 22, you wrote: “I don’t want my parents to work anymore“. You can tell your father that you will not work for him in the future (no future financial support) unless he respects you always (never to disrespect you). It is not too much to ask of a person you financially support (or plan on financially supporting) to respect you, is it?

anita