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SereneWolf
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Dear Anita:

yes, definitely (over time, not immediately).
Thanks, I’ll try to do that

Your father’s current in-real-life criticism (aka outer critic) is maintaining that critical negative voice (aka inner critic), a critical, negative voice that your father is largely responsible for. If you block the outer critic, it will be the first step to weaken the inner critic.

Oh, I see you found a good insight from the details I’ve provided! how do you even remember this much? Give me secrets of your note takings😂

But as I’ve said I’m mostly blocking the outer critics. Eg. Like if you don’t know about Medical tings I wouldn’t care about your opinion.
I’m trying to be very rational and not just dwell in what everyone’s opinions about me. Because only I know What I’m capable of and What I’ve been through
I decide my limits, not other people.

your inner critic is causing you to lose your energy (see your own words in the quote, 2nd paragraph). Following the initial and unpleasant expenditure of energy asserting yourself with your father, and following the resulting weakening of the inner critic, you will regain much needed lost energy.

Yes, I prefer not to lose that energy and guide that energy for better things

 

do you mean that your father mostly does not criticize you, but from time to time he does? Does he say “do whatever you think is right for you” in a sincere tone or in an insincere, dismissive tone… a slightly angry tone?

No. He mostly doesn’t criticize me now. I wouldn’t even say time to time but like rarely. He’s actually saying that in sincere tone. Because he does know I’m doing what I can.