Dear SereneWolf,

I’d like to add something to what I’ve said in my last sentence (to surround yourself with people who support you). I know this might not be easy for you, specially if you’ve never really shared about your internal struggles with other people, if you were hesitant to talk about your fears, self-doubts, insecurities etc. If you don’t have friends whom you can confide it, you can’t just suddenly surround yourself with such people.

That being said, it would still be important that you do have someone to talk to (besides us on the forum), someone who can support you in your growth. Even the top CEOs strive to grow, and many of them have coaches. Not only business coaches, but personal coaches, who help them deal with the challenges of managing people and managing the company. They’re not embarrassed to seek help – on the contrary, they are proud of it. They are in the growth mindset, which also includes growth in emotional health, empathy and soft skills in general – everything that you are aiming for.

 people around me does makes me feel like psychotherapy isn’t normal so I’m hesitant for that.

But growth is normal, right? Even desirable? How about reframing your quest as the quest for growth, for being the best version of yourself, instead of “healing from disease”? Would that help you accept that it’s okay to seek help, that it’s not an embarrassment (like maybe you thought so far)?