Dear Tee,
How was your weekend?

it could be that successful people are more open to getting help (i.e. to work on themselves), and that’s what makes them so successful! I am not sure about this, but I wouldn’t be surprised at all if it were true.
That could be right just yesterday I watched video on LinkedIn by Simon Senek how vulnerability could the greatest power in leadership position but it’s also right that creating an emotionally safe environment for your team it ain’t no easy work. But somehow, I’ll learn

I watched the video “This is how you replace the critical voices in your head“.

Things I noticed like you said before I do have to surround myself with positive people. And I see that I do interact with positive people. Some of my friends gives me good vibes and even at work It’s going good. But the thing is that people everywhere taking criticism very seriously and praise very lightly that’s what I noticed and same thing is happening with me. So I’ve decided to start new thing for my team if someone is doing better at least 3 people closest to the member and included team leader should write little handwritten note (Even if just a small sticky note) to make that person feel like that did something good and it would cheer them. I’m working remotely but still I think I’d design little canva card just to be more informal way of appreciation. Because no matter what Email would look formal. Because these reminders are important for loud critical voices

Also with his daughter Olivia and sheep example he cleared that it’s all in our head. Which makes me remember the quote by Seneca “We suffer more in imagination than in reality”

And building neuroplasticity with practice – What’s your experience with that so far?

 it’s all about joking, sarcasm and trying to verbally outsmart each other. I am not saying all men are like that, but they are more prone to putting on a mask of a “tough, cool guy”, because that’s what they think is expected of them.

That’s more or less true and the thing is that my group is always like take everything down with smile, don’t say No (Which is like my biggest problem) because we feel like we should be capable of anything, and we shouldn’t disappoint people by Saying NO. Which is why I’ll watch video of Henry Cloud of How to create boundaries and let you know more about it

they think that showing vulnerability is weak and dangerous

Exactly that’s what I mean, so I’m trying to be more open and vulnerable with some of them (in IT we do alpha test like an MVP like testing something before it’s fully developed) So I’m just experimenting that does this can work or we guys just want to stick to this belief that we always have to be the tough, and vulnerability is weakness, and make them realize that it’s really not a sustainable belief and what you can call a growth mindset
Because yeah pretending would make us emotionally exhausted

(and maybe girls too)

Hmm actually I think women do have more EQ, because from my experience most of the female friends (not gfs) that I have they’re more open and vulnerable they trust in me, empathy, communication their way to express their selves can’t be even compared with my guy friends.
Although I do know some of the arrogant ones to who just to prove themselves that they’re right and others are wrong. But I mostly ignore those ones