Dear Tee,

Yes, definitely. It’s important whom we surround ourselves with. But also, if sometimes we can’t avoid dealing with nasty or demanding people – to have boundaries to protect ourselves from them.

Yes but I’ll have to think how to create boundaries with my family. I’m already not living with them, and it’s been they aren’t interfering (which I prefer) They are supportive when I say I want to do this, I want to do that. They be like do what you think is right just go on wrong/dishonest way (because they are sure I wouldn’t) Yet I still like they do treat me like a kid as well? and I talked this about my friend, and she said No matter what age are you, You’ll always be the kid of your parents so they’re going to be overprotective about some things…So I can’t really deny her either

Nice! Are some of those female friends also your work colleagues?

Yes two of them are my work colleagues.

Or that the boss would lose his respect for you (because you would seem weak and incompetent)? Or something else?

I think maybe for this. Because I feel like It would hurt the image that I created at workplace. Because I think respect is something you have to earn so…
But for an experiment just today I said No for a small task because I wasn’t really interested in doing that. So I said No
But so far I’m feeling okay with that

Because I think it’s a bit like parenting – you don’t force other siblings to praise their younger brother or sister. It’s the responsibility of the parents. Because if you force other siblings to do it, they might start feeling jealous and resentful towards their younger sibling. So it might backfire and not be good for the team spirit. But if you, as the team leader, praise the newcomer, and also praise everyone who is doing their best – I think that’s useful and productive.

At least that’s how I see it… tell me if you see it differently?

Hmm That’s another perspective to look at it. But I think I’m doing that because I want team members to feel closed to each other too. and mostly because guys wouldn’t show vulnerability (New or the current ones) it would be like a good starting point for them. There’s no must obligation but more like if they feel like it, they can do this as a friendly gesture. I just want to put this thing as naturally as possible.
I’m also having meeting this week with People because I think some of the old members (experienced employees) who are working in their role quite well for years they should get kind of performance bonus + appreciative gift for sticking with the company. Since it’s already December
What do you think? Should I make any changes? 

Many many years of working on myself did make me pretty self-aware, yes… but it was a long process, definitely not something that happened over night.

Yes it’s not a overnight thing. I do have to remind this to my impatient self.

Another thing I’m feeling anxious about like 2022 about to end. What significant things that I did or achieved. But I’m not able to see enough things