Dear Hello,

I am sorry that more of his deception has come to light recently, but at the same time, it’s good to know that this man will soon be out of your life, and that you are so right for leaving him!

It seems that he has been secretly having an affair while married to his first wife, and when the wife found out, she asked for a divorce. I am saying this because you said that his first wife left – meaning she left him, not vice versa:

Even his son said he’s made a habit off living off of others since his wife left.

So he was living off of her money, cheating her with someone else, and he probably had no intention to change anything about it, had he not been caught. I guess that’s the truth of it, not what he has been telling you.

And maybe he has been doing the same to you, Hello, only you haven’t caught him red-handed, although you did suspect that he might be cheating…. The point is that he might have repeated the exact same, or almost the same scenario with you, as he did with his first wife. Exploiting the wife financially, cheating on her, all the way making the wife look bad.

He is a predator, as it seems to me, and is probably preying on well-off women, who are insecure in themselves and who he can manipulate.

I am sorry, dear Hello, that you came across such a dishonest, manipulative man. And yes, it was a huge deception on his part. He deceived you, or wanted to deceive you, in the same way he did his first wife. He probably never wanted to be honest with you, because his plan was to deceive you and live off of you, not to love you. A predator really, that’s what he is.

I don’t plan on bringing this up with him right now as it’s the holidays and I’ve got to focus on the kids. But when I’m moved out I plan to tell him at the right time.

Yes, first move out, secure yourself, don’t confront him with the truth too soon, so he can’t retaliate too much. What did he do when his first wife divorced him? Do you know if there was any drama at that time?