Dear SereneWolf,

I am fine, thank you. Apart from the fact that I’m going to need to get myself some reading glasses, because I’ve started noticing that my eyes get strained in front of the computer.

Guess who had their first therapy season recently? That’s right, Me!

Wow, congratulations!!!

She’s a Psychotherapist + Prana Healer + Chakra Balance Helper

If she’s a licensed psychotherapist, that’s fine. I am a little skeptical about prana healers, but if they have a degree in psychology or counseling, energy work can be a nice addition. Makes their work more holistic…

And she did kind of talked and suggested things like you did (Are you in psychology field too?)

I am not a psychologist or a a counselor, but I do have some basic knowledge in psychology, and I’ve been into personal development for almost 20 years, so I’ve learned quite a bit…

And I told her for the things I’m working on, She said I’m on the right direction

Good to hear about that!

I talked about the childhood trauma and feeling not good enough etc. She said for that I’ll have to work on my root chakra.

Hmmm… root chakra is related to our basic sense of security and groundedness in the physical plane. Feeling good in our body, not spacing out, being present in the here-and-now, that kind of stuff. It’s not so much related to our self-esteem. Rather, the 3rd chakra is (the solar plexus). So it’s a bit strange that she suggested to work on the root chakra… Maybe next time you can ask her?

Also work on surrendering

What kind of surrendering did she suggest?

As for affirmations, they don’t work for everybody. If you don’t believe what you’re saying, it’s not much use. So check it with yourself: when you say a certain affirmation (e.g. “I am good enough”, or “I am competent enough”), do you believe it, or not really?

LAM chanting – It’s like hummin sound while meditating.

I’ve just looked it up, it’s supposedly a chant to cleanse the root chakra:

“Lam is also used to cleanse the muladhara chakra, in order to establish or maintain a sense of being grounded and connected to the earth. … Since the muladhara chakra is the gateway to the remaining six chakras, chanting lam can be a powerful means of shifting energy throughout the entire body.”

I guess there’s no harm in working on your root chakra, to feel more grounded and present in the here-and-now. Because that can help you be more attuned to both your own needs, and also other people’s needs. So I guess it’s a good practice.

Yes they’re happy with it. and in this case they didn’t compared or did what other parents (I mean my relatives) did. So my cousin wanted to pursue music or agriculture but his father didn’t let him do it so he’s studying dentistry now.. I do feel for him whenever we talk..

I am glad your parents are more or less supportive nowadays and don’t try to control your life. I too feel for you cousin, who was forced to study something he doesn’t like. That’s so unfortunate 🙁

But yet still I took a wrong decision for my education and after years I get it right

I remember you said you chose a wrong field to study, and then dropped out of college, right? And now you’re studying online to get a degree?

That’s really insightful! thanks for sharing this and I’ll watch the video

Yes, I too thought it was super helpful to see the parents as guardians and managers – while we were children, but not beyond.

Hmm I think you’re right about this. In my head I was like Saying Yes and following orders are what I should do. But as a leader that’s not right

Yeah, as a leader you shouldn’t just follow orders, but also evaluate if those orders and feasible and how they affect your team. It’s just occurred to me that always following orders would be like being in the army 🙂 A company should have a different culture, where you can also question those orders and give feedback…

but from this I found that I need to work on my “Speak Up”- related to childhood trauma lol

Yes, you weren’t encouraged to speak up as a child. I guess you were told what’s best for you, right?

And at work as right now the thing is that I’m the youngest manager here (lot of the people who work under me are also older than me) so.. I think this is another thing I have to work on… so It’s all just making sense now

Congratulations on being the youngest manager at your company! That’s a big achievement. You clearly have managerial skills, which is great, and now you’re upgrading them with soft skills, which will help you become an even better manager, i.e. a true leader!

And he said it’s okay and didn’t ague about it. So I guess I was just overthinking and just afraid of saying NO or Speak Up

Great! So it wasn’t a big deal that you refused, which means that your boss is a reasonable person, not a bully. That’s so important to have a normal boss!

Thanks this will help me for scripting and presenting to them in a better way

You’re welcome! Let me know how it went…

Wow that’s an excellent Idea! no matter what happens, I’ll try to implement this. With anonymous feedback others would feel more safer and not feel like attacked

Yeah, I know from talking to people close to me how horrible it is when the boss isn’t interested in the employees’ feedback, and how they are expected to just follow the orders and stay silent. And I think I’ve read somewhere that there are such feedback boxes in good companies, and I really liked the idea…

Yes but you helped me unfolding and we’re still unfolding things so I’m kind of proud of myself that I did took actionable steps but also big thanks to you. I really appreciate your support. Not to mention you’re literally teaching me how to be a better leader

You’re very welcome! And you should be proud of yourself for taking action so quickly, both by going to therapy and also by taking concrete steps in your company. Good job, indeed!

(So which arise a question Are you also a leader? – only answer if you’re comfortable sharing otherwise it’s okay)

No, I am not a leader. Rather, I’m trying to be self-employed, but am very slow in taking action – quite the opposite of you 🙂 So I am learning something from you too – how to take action and not be afraid of it. So thank you, too! 🙂