Dear Anita And Tee

i logged on to update you and saw that you blessed me with more guidance unsolicited. I’m so truly grateful for this. You’ve been instrumental at keeping my momentum going. I’m doing great. Yesterday was my big day as my precious daughters left for grandma / grandpa with their dad after we spent Christmas morning together. I was now free to start moving things out and I started right away!!
I told my daughters about the break up last week. They handles it very well and are excite about our new life and home together. I took them to our new home so they could visualize and so they’re reassured that nothing major like their schools and schedule between me and their dad has changed. We have a flock of 15 wonderful chickens and we bought a new coop and I assured them they’d be moving with us and we’d make a new home for them too!

I can tell you that yesterday was the happiest I’ve felt in a few years. I was packing my things and loading my car taking things to the new house. My soon to be x attempted to usurp my car in a very manipulative way so that he could use it to move his things (mine is an SUV type) but I quickly retrieved my keys.
yes he’s still using the same tactics – manipulation, guilting me, projection, love bombing, etc But Im not affected by them

I’ve distanced myself from him and just focused on moving forward. He’s got no access to my finances either. My big furniture move is Jan 3rd but he’s already moving things out and he’s moving his big things later in the week

when I’m around him I feel like I’m being poisoned. When I’m not I’m at peace. I’m spending as much time as I can away from this house and I’ll be free soon!!

I will check in soon but please do send me any videos , advice you might happen to find on narcissists. I’ve realized fully now that he’s been an abuser all this time and I know I’ll have to heal from that. Believe it or not his x wife reached out to me through this. We were already pretty well acquainted over the years since she had kids with my soon to be x husband. She left him too and it turns out all the stories and narratives he’s spun on her are completely false. I was suspect as I watched his behavior unfold over the years and now so many inconsistencies make sense. He bankrupted her as well, abused her emotionally, cheated and she was in counseling for years after to recover from his abuse. She’s thrived since she left him and pretty much raised their two kids (my stepchildren) on her own. He hasn’t paid a dime in child support since they divorced. All his lies are coming to the surface and it’s confirming what the sages says thousands of years ago – the truth always finds it’s way to the surface. It may take years, days, months, but it will.
thank you and blessings to you!!!!