Dear Hello,

you’re welcome. It’s good to hear all is going according to the schedule!

He’s still love bombing anc going into bouts of crying saying he doesn’t understand every so often.

When they don’t get what they want, narcissists often play the victim and accuse the other party. He’s not able or willing to understand why you’re leaving him. He is not owning any of his bad behavior and is acting as if he were the hurt party. As if you are doing something bad to him. That’s role reversal. Narcissists regularly do that: portraying themselves as the victim and accusing you (the victim) to be the actual abuser.

It’s extremely sad and disturbing at the same time to watch this level of mental illness.

I think the greatest problem with NPD is that the person refuses to admit there’s anything wrong with them. Instead, they blame and accuse others. That’s why there’s no hope for healing either, in most of the cases.

I had no idea just how severe it was until I became aware of his disorder.

I am glad that you finally saw it as it is. It does help tremendously when we can finally name and understand what’s going on, because as Dr. Ramani says: when we know what we’re dealing with, we can then act strategically. And that’s exactly what you’ve been doing since…

I will be free of it soon and so will my daughters. Luckily they were not affected negatively by him

That’s good to hear. So he hasn’t been putting them down, criticizing them, or manipulating them in some way?